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You are going to get through this! check out some tips across the cycle

Social media...

What to expect...

Social media is a hard one especially in the world we live in, I cant tell you the number of times I would check on what my ex was doing.... even through mutual friends who would tag him in things (he didn't post much). 


These things can be debilitating especially as you comes to terms with what has just happened. I didn't want to to be removed from social media completely so I made the apps work for me by finding accounts that made me laugh all day long (haha accounts),  reflect on what I had been through (ahh accounts) and give me hope (aww accounts) in this crazy life we all live. I only have Insta and FB so if there are others from tik tok / twitter etc let me know and happy to add them in!

I got another!

Key steps I took

Turned off all Notifications -  except for my text messages and it meant I controlled when I saw then, I still check alot but at least I choose when to be distracted. 


Set 10 min screen time app limits across all accounts to make sure I dont go down rabbit holes (under settings, screen time)


Deleted ex after a month or so (earlier is advisable but again its up to you) 


Deleted/ restricted access to his friends and family as I knew how much it was impacting plus I didn't want them to share what I was doing (not much but still)


Used this opportunity to cleanse my social media friends in general, on who to keep and who can view what, after my divorce the traditional constructs were out the door and I was navigating the divorce label whilst grieving loss. 


Deleted/restricted accounts that would trigger me - e.g. people who post too many happy relationship or family things, it wasn't helping me on my recovery.


Started following funny accounts, I use humour as a coping mechanism so found the accounts below made me laugh at my misery which I much prefer then to spend most of my day dwelling in it. 


Started following accounts that made me reflect on what I had been through, I am personally into research and understanding myself and the world better based on data. 


What I also learnt much later on, is that social media (for me insta) was the social passport for dating!  I personally share a bit on my accounts so I give people my number instead. So about 4-5 months on I archived the photos of my ex, which was very painful.


Another tricky one is what to do with friends and family who still keep them on their socials...each to their own on this, I had asked family to remove him. Friends asked if they could still keep him which I didn't personally mind and its our issues is not theirs.  I have to manage my own mind - all fun and games!.

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Suggested iG/ FB accounts - if you have others let us know!

My top 10 picks!

There are so many incredible accounts that have kept me going! below is pretty much everything in 3 buckets - what makes me laugh (haha), reflect (ahh) and give me hope (aww). I would say follow all these accounts but here is my absolute fav top 10


  1.  Couple Things 
  2.  Insta.Single 
  3.  Drinks for Gayz  
  4.  Employee Tears 
  5.  The Awkward Yeti   
  6.  Alf | The Present Psychologist  
  7.  TED Talks  
  8.  Harvard Business Review   
  9.  The Female Lead  
  10.  Harmz | Illustrator  

I got one to share!

How to get Social media to work for you...

HAHA Accounts (funny)

AHHH Accounts (reflective)

AHHH Accounts (reflective)

Humour is incredibly humbling and powerful for change and getting out of the victim mentality. I am including a number of buckets but its relatable to everyone - and its one of the best ways to learn about another's world ;) ALSO memes rock!


Humour for all!

  • Thirty AF  ~*MiLLenNiAL hEaVeN*~ 
  • Couple Things Barbie and Ken relationship stories (

Humour is incredibly humbling and powerful for change and getting out of the victim mentality. I am including a number of buckets but its relatable to everyone - and its one of the best ways to learn about another's world ;) ALSO memes rock!


Humour for all!

  • Thirty AF  ~*MiLLenNiAL hEaVeN*~ 
  • Couple Things Barbie and Ken relationship stories (my fav)
  •  The Land Of Boggs Hilarious life videos
  •  The Awkward Yeti  Comics & merch about organs - so good!
  • Betchwithnolife Your moms favorite page 
  • MattSureLee Thousands of charts, dozens of laughs.
  • Wittyidiot Dating, Mental Health, True Crime, Mindfulness, Self-Deprecation 
  • Insta.Single Memes about relationships, being single, family, and everything else! 
  • The Betoota Advocate  Australia's oldest and favourite newspaper. 
  • Mytherapistsays hilarious
  • Daddyissues_ Ex accountant turned meme queen 
  •  U Up? Podcast  A millennial dating comedy podcast 
  • Pigeons Doing Things 
  • LADbible  Stuff to tell the LADs about.
  •  Shitheadsteve  The best meme page of 2021 ten years in a row.  
  • Coffee Thoughts  Original Random Coffee Thoughts 


Comedians

  • Pinky Patel Tik tok Comedian - LOVE
  • Sooshi Mango Aussie Ethnic comedians
  • Celeste Barber Actor. Comedian. Writer. Lady. 
  •  Jimmy Rees  Kept everyone sane during Covid
  • Hamish and Andy
  •  Neel Kolhatkar Comedian, Improviser, 
  •  Daniel Muggleton  Aus comedian wearing tracksuit.
  •  Boyfriends of Insta The original anti influencer influencer club 



Queers & Drama queens (me)

  • Drinks for Gayz Hilarious!!
  • SluttyPuffin Comedian
  •  Jordan Firstman  Closeted gay filmmaker, actor, writer  
  • Gays who meme well Gay comedy. Iconique memes 


For the Ladies (Queens)

  • Violet Clair Let’s talk about feelings, self worth, & our periods 
  • Women who love wine sip back & enjoy my unsolicited life advice
  • But like maybe anxious yet optimistic toonz
  •  DILFS Of Disneyland  Welcome to the happiest place on Instagram!
  • Ladies Finance Club Ladies, let's get money savvy. 


Work/Corporate Life

  •  Consulting Comedy  Best work humor in the biz! Keepin’ it real  
  • Consulting Humor A beacon of light in an otherwise unforgiving profession
  •  Employee Tears  My dream job is not having one. 
  • thisismyconsultinglife Exposing consulting stereotypes 
  •  MBA-ish | Work Satire  premium-ish work memes for Gen Zs & Millennials in every industry 
  • Work Retire Die Here for a long time, not a good time. 
  •  Fishbowl Consultants  Where the consulting industry goes to get real advice, chat 
  •  Underpaid Employee My bonus this year was an oatmeal cookie 🍪
  • Non Equity Partner All time consuming memes eligible for CLE credit  


Comics

  •  Ketnipz  A lil bean with big dreams 
  •   Itchy Feet Comic  Travel and language comics by Malachi Ray Rempen!  
  •  Uncle Subbu Comics An #indianwebcomic about a dad & his daughter. 
  •  leo | webcomic artist  dedicate my comics to my wife & her deep hatred for birds.
     


AHHH Accounts (reflective)

AHHH Accounts (reflective)

AHHH Accounts (reflective)

There are some great accounts on understanding the mind, trauma, self and how others work.  Also spent time reflecting on my own bias/ acceptance gender roles.


Relationship Focused

  • The Gottman Institute  A research-based approach to relationships. (Absolutely incredible!)
  • Esther Perel World renowned relationship   psychotherapist  


Psychother

There are some great accounts on understanding the mind, trauma, self and how others work.  Also spent time reflecting on my own bias/ acceptance gender roles.


Relationship Focused

  • The Gottman Institute  A research-based approach to relationships. (Absolutely incredible!)
  • Esther Perel World renowned relationship   psychotherapist  


Psychotherapists - Trauma / healing

  • Alf | The Present Psychologist  Thoughts & facts on psychology
  • Anita Tomecki  (MY COACH) Human Behaviour Expert & Coach, Speaker 
  • The Holistic psychologist heal + consciously create a new version of yourself 
  •  RefugeinGrief Emotionally intelligent grief support. 
  • Millennial therapist existential psychotherapist 
  • Vienna Pharaon Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in NY
  • Narc Sociopath Awareness Specialising in Narcassistic abuse  
  • Healing + Complex-PTSD Community for complex trauma survivors
  •  Lets talk divorce Divorce, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery + Mindful Parenting. 
  • Caroline Strawson Trauma Informed Therapist & Coach 
  •  Behaviour Therapist attachment, emotions, inner child and relationships 
  • Break up Bestie guide you to see your break up as a blessing 
  • Divorce survival guide coach, podcaster


Other interesting learnings

  •  TED Talks Ideas worth spreading 
  • Harvard Business Review  Improving the practice of management
  • Brené Brown  Researcher. Storyteller. Texan. 
  • SexwitheEmily Doctor of Human Sexuality 
  • Adam Grant -  Organizational psychologist  
  • Conscious Conversations authenticity + vulnerability. 
  • Dandapani Hindu priest, entrepreneur & speaker. 
  •  Julia George Psychotherapist 
  • Astrology with Mark 



Feminine Empowerment 

  •  LAINEY MOLNAR illustrator • soul guide 
  • The Female Lead Educational Charity The Female Lead. 
  • Indian Feminist  smashing the patriarchy 1 post at a time 
  • Dangerous Females empowering women!
  •   Rising Woman ConsciousRelationship 



Questions

AWW Accounts (inspiring)

AHHH Accounts (reflective)

AWW Accounts (inspiring)

These are the kind of accounts that give me hope for change and give my mind a break; including puppies, activism, good new stories.


New stories!

  •  Some Good News   good news stories from around the world.  
  • Good News by Good Good Good we help you feel more hopeful & do more good 
  • Lockdown acts of kindness  celebrating in Sydney and beyond 
  • Hum

These are the kind of accounts that give me hope for change and give my mind a break; including puppies, activism, good new stories.


New stories!

  •  Some Good News   good news stories from around the world.  
  • Good News by Good Good Good we help you feel more hopeful & do more good 
  • Lockdown acts of kindness  celebrating in Sydney and beyond 
  • Humans of New York - sharing peoples stories
  •  The Economist  News and analysis with a global perspective.  

Activism / thoughts

  • The Good Quote Advocating for mental health and self development
  • Purposologist  re-member what is dismembered. 
  • Shit you should care about NZ based
  • mohamad Safa Activist 


Art

  • Harmz | Illustrator  Spreading peace, empowerment & a lil’ bit of magic  (WOW)
  •  Monica Carvalho   making the ordinary extraordinary! 
  • Laurie Lipton The 21st Century's greatest draftswoman... but humble with it.
  •  happiness project  clothing with a cause 
  •  VEX KING Positivity | Inspiration | Wisdom
     

Animals

  • Dogs Working From Home  They’re the unsung heroes of our zoom calls
  •  Barked by 9GAG | Dog community  A community for dog lovers  
  • Wonderful_earthpix Beautiful nature and animals 
  • SeaLegacy We use the power of media and storytelling to amplify ocean solutions. 
  • Zuri Black English Cocker Spaniel 

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